“My heart still wins over my head…”
Is that true? Is it really your heart that you feel? Or do you just think you’re feeling your heart?
When you spend a lot of time in your head, truly feeling becomes difficult. But suddenly, when you’re in love, you start to feel a lot. It’s interesting, right? But is it really your heart you’re feeling, or do you just think it is? You probably won’t be able to tell, especially if you haven’t been in touch with your emotions for a while.
What’s the result when it comes to love?
There’s a man in your life. You share incredible moments together—the well-known “highs”! It feels different, at least for you. It’s a deeper kind of love than you’ve ever felt before. It truly feels like he’s your soulmate, your one true love!
But… the commitment you’re hoping for isn’t there. And that commitment is exactly what you want.
Why do you stay?
Because you think your heart is still stronger than your head. But that’s not the case at all (sorry to break the bad news). It’s not your heart. It’s your Love Blueprint©, which is programmed to attract and engage in relationships that aren’t truly good for you.
How?
Your Love Blueprint© is set, and you can’t change it right now. Yes, you can change it, but not at this moment when you’d want to. It will take time, and that’s probably not what you want to hear right now.
So what is your Love Blueprint©?
It’s the kind of love you’re used to, formed by the love you received from your parents. This isn’t about them doing anything wrong—every parent loves their children and shows love in the way they are able to.
But…
That doesn’t always mean it was the kind of love you truly needed as a child.
Many of our parents didn’t have much emotional connection themselves. And that’s understandable given the generation they grew up in—post-war, with their own parents focused on survival. Emotional needs weren’t often addressed. For many of us, our parents wanted more for us than they had, pushing us toward success and achievement.
Their focus was on giving us opportunities they never had. Success, hard work, and perseverance became more important than emotions. As a result, many of our parents were emotionally unavailable.
That doesn’t mean they didn’t love us. Of course they did, but only to the extent they could.
For a child, emotionally unavailable parents can feel unsafe. And as a child, the only way to escape that feeling is to flee to your head.
This is where your survival strategy comes in—achieving, working hard, and staying in your head. This shapes your Love Blueprint©. It might not be what you consciously want now, but it’s what your system is used to.
This is why you’re drawn to men who are emotionally unavailable. You experience intense highs, but also deep lows—relationships that might feel exciting but lack the secure love you’re craving.
When you think that man, who brings those incredible highs, is your “true love” or “soulmate,” it feels like your heart speaking. But it’s not your heart—it’s your Love Blueprint©, reflecting the love you were familiar with from your childhood.
If you had an emotionally unavailable parent, you’re likely to be attracted to emotionally unavailable men.
How do you fix this?
By recognizing, healing, and reprogramming your Love Blueprint©! Otherwise, you’ll continue attracting relationships that, while thrilling, are also filled with drama and lack the commitment you truly desire.
How do you recognize, heal, and reprogram your Love Blueprint? I’m giving a free live masterclass on this next week. You can sign up here for free.
Have a wonderful day!
Love,
Myra Gaia
